MY PARTNER NEEDS HELP
PARTNERS AND SPOUSES OF AN ADDICT
Spouses or partners of addicts can experience what is known as codependency, also known as relationship or love addiction. It can be defined as ignoring yourself and focusing on your partner to alleviate your inner pain and loneliness.
Codependency symptoms can include denial, isolation, gaslighting, manipulation, lying, feelings of insanity, emotional responses, and compulsive behaviour. Codependents try to control their partner, to the point that, like any other addiction, it consumes their lives.
Codependents typically rationalize problematic behaviour of their partners and give up friends and social activities. They enable their partners or spend all their energy trying to get their partners to change through manipulation, blaming, lying or nagging. They may withdraw from social circles in order to hide their problems. Shame and secrets are two words associated with codependency.
As codependency worsens, the obsession and dependence increases. They may turn to other addictive behaviours and there might be instances of abuse. And in the worst cases, codependency affects one's health.
Treatment for codependency begins with recognizing that there is a problem. We can help. Our Clinical Director Karen Bresinger MSW also works as our Family Counselor and helps coordinate special meetings for partners of addicts.
Contact us today if you think you may be a codependent.
- “Do You Feel Trapped in the Chaos of Someone Else’s Addiction?”
Eight-Session Programs Available at Various Times Throughout the Year
Mondays, 3:00 - 4:30 PM
Tuesdays, 6:30 - 8:00 PM
In this closed group meeting for family members and loved ones of addicts, participants learn tools to create a healthier environment. Boundaries, communication skills, and other topics will be explored in an open and safe setting alongside other who identify with what you’re going through.
- Partners of Sex Addiction Group (pre-registration required. Contact us for more information)